Giving Constructive Comments on Blogs

Every time you post you take a risk. A risk that someone won’t like what you said, will like what you said or will think about what you said. So it is important to not only think about your posts (obviously!), but also think about your comments (before you post) on your fellow blogger’s sites.

I recently left a comment on a food blogger manda2177‘s site  and thought that these tips might be useful for others as well, so thought I’d share this with you.

Before you comment:

  • Put yourself in the other blogger’s shoes and think about receiving your comment.
  • Pretend you are at a dinner party and use your best manners.
  • Be clear about what message you want to convey.
  • Be calm and respond from the heart, not from your emotions.In your comment:
  • Be polite and do not use explicatives — challenge yourself to find some other way to express your emotions or get your point across.
  • Be concise, sincere and straightforward when you express your opinion.
  • Leave something of value to improve the post or share your experiences.
  • To use a sporting analogy “play the ball, not the man”. In other words, target your comment to the post NOT the blogger or other commentors!
  • If your comment is something that you feel might be too personal, overly critical or negative, consider if it is important to leave it. Perhaps write it and revisit or send an email to the blogger later.
  • Use good grammar, spelling and punctuation. Someone reading this post may be a potential subscribers to yours.

In an effort to practice what I preach, here’s the comment I left:

I too am not a food blogger and I am an avid cook, so completely relate to your post. I want to applaud your sincerity and highlight how important taking responsibility for not only your comments, but also your overall actions, as you’ve done.
As a leadership specialist one of the things I would teach clients is to “politely suggest”, rather than “sandwich with grace”. To use your example, I might leave a comment to your Grandma saying “I tried the recipe and didn’t get the beautiful fudge you make. The texture and consistency were grainy. Have you had the happen before? What do you suggest?”
This allows the person to respond to the problem rather than the criticism itself. As women we “sandwich” feedback and it is confusing and most people walk away feeling the same emotion you did when you delivered the news. Sincerity and clarity go a long way!

How did I do? If you’re curious to see the context of my comment or read: How to Handle Negative Feedback Foodie Style click here

What tips did I miss? Please leave yours for others to benefit from.

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2 Responses to Giving Constructive Comments on Blogs

  1. gaycarboys says:

    We take a risk when ever we open our mouths or write something down. But somehow it makes life sweeter.

  2. thedailydish says:

    A terrific summary! Leaving (and receiving) comments is one of the best parts of blogging. The community of friends I’ve built over the past 4 years seems almost like a second family. We support, encourage and yes, critique each other. And I for one think we’re better for it.

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